Alright ladies and gentlemen (but mostly guys) - here's your chance to get an inside look at what women REALLY want. Written by a real LIVE female, a guide out there for those of you who are wondering why you still need to cuddle with stuffed animals at the age of 18+. Special thanks to our very own Jaime Morocco for putting this together!
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Guy Dating 101: What us girls already WANT (&EXPECT) you to know…but will never tell you.
God knows that as a single female living in Boston, I’ve had my slew of awful dates. Examples: guy who told me he felt like a ‘girl’ with me because I was a better city driver than him, guy who peed in my trashcan because he got too drunk @ a club that I will not mention (used to be really good), guy who ordered a lychee martini when I ordered a grey goose on the rocks (nothing against martini’s but—you gotta keep up with the girl you’re with!), guy who split a $20 bottle of wine with me when HE ordered it and who can forget the guy who told me he had a ‘boob reduction’ when he was 9. All true—I kid you not… some of it is so crazy I couldn’t make this $*&@ up.
Instead of looking back at these incidences with regret or in some cases disgust… I realize that they make for great stories, not to mention I have learned so much. After spending my college days with 4 guys as my best friends I have come to learn a lot about the male culture and how guys get girls etc. When it comes to relationships, I have come to the realization that it would be MUCH easier for you all if I just let you in on a few things that girls want you to know—but will never say--- because we want you to just KNOW without having to tell you (so fair right?) ☺.
1.) Just tell us we are really pretty.
No, not ‘sexy’, ‘hot’ or that you want to get in our pants. Of course these are all nice things to hear but it makes us feel like a piece of ass. When you first meet us, a simple “I think you are stunning” is much more meaningful and sincere.
2.) You are responsible to pay for not only the first date but the first few. Whenever I go on a first date with someone I always do a ‘test’. I leave my credit card on the table when the bill comes and excuse myself. If he takes it—it shows he doesn’t want to make a good impression. Note that this has NOTHING to do with money. I always let a guy pick the place we go, what we do etc (also very important) and I feel that it is important for a guy to pay in order to show that he wants to make a good impression. Again, this has NOTHING to do with money. I can fully take care of myself and have no problem doing so…but cheapness is a MAJOR turn off… if not the biggest. There is a huge difference in having no money and being cheap. When you are cheap you will split the cost of a dinner with a girl (on your first few dates), when you have no money you will take her to a place you know you can afford and pay for it.
3.) Speaking of the first few dates, girls like guys who take initiative. To us, it’s hot when a guy knows what he wants and has good ideas about what to do. Phrases like “I don’t care—I’ll do whatever”, or “your choice” are so not hot! Take charge—you are a GUY!!
4.) Do not initiate trying to sleep with us until we do. Trust me, we will let you know. And if you try too much too soon we will just think you are a male slut and just want to get in our pants.
5.) Self confidence is the hottest thing in the world. Putting yourself down or ‘fishing for compliments’ makes us think you need constant reassurance. Always avoid the phrase, “you are so much hotter than me”, because then we will just think you are some lonely, self-hating, self-conscious puppy. A guy can be not so cute but if he has self confidence that makes him instantly 10,000 times sexier.
6.) Just be real. I’m all about a little game playing here and there—it’s what keeps you guessing and makes things interesting. Mystery= sexy. But if you don’t like the girl—peace out! Don’t leave her hanging, man up and say buh-bye!
7.) Have fun of course. & Don’t settle for anything less. So cliché but so true. If you don’t feel it—don’t force it. On to the next!!
(And I say this is strictly for relationships because if you just want to get a girl in your pants—go read The Game—it’s good stuff). ☺
Thanks for reading ☺
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